How do you refer to your sexual organs?
Some years ago I started asking women in my workshops this question. I’ve discovered that the majority have no name for their sexual organs. After a shocked silence, most respond with the word vagina, which I reject. Firstly, it is inaccurate. Vagina is the name for the passage between the vulva and the uterus. It is also inadequate. Women have a range of sexual organs, more of a sexual system really. Besides the vagina, there is the labia majora and labia minora – the outer and inner vulva, the mons veneris – that’s the pubic region, between the vulva and anus is the perineum, and of course, the clitoris. The final and primary reason I reject vagina as the answer to this question is because it is a cop-out. A vagina is what you take to the gynaecologist not the bedroom or the night out with the girls for that matter.
Usually, after some prodding I get some real answers. Curiously most of the sentences start with; “My boyfriend/husband calls it…” So again I ask, “What do you call it?” Mine is a Pussy. I called it Yoni for a while but that felt a bit inaccessible. Yoni is a Sanskrit word, often used in Tantra to refer to female sexual organs; loosely translated it means “source or origin of life”. I like the associations the word Pussy conjures; cats, which are sensual, slinky, content, self-possessed. They invite and enjoy being stroked, they only do what gives them pleasure and they are gracious receivers. This is why pussy works for me. It might not work for you. The point is to think about yours, acknowledge it, own it, connect with it and establish a relationship with it. Your pussy is an inextricable part of your femininity.
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Can you fully harness your inherent feminine power, while for the most part you behave like you are merely babysitting it for your lover?
Imagine that as a young woman you were given a Ferrari as a gift, intended to be an ongoing source of pleasure for you. Imagine that you have since kept this car in the garage, never driving it yourself. You only let your lovers drive it. Only when there is a man behind the wheel do you pay your Ferrari some attention and get to experience the joy of owning it. Wouldn’t that be crazy? So why do that with your pussy?
If you were a financial director you wouldn’t give more money to a manager who never spends her budget, yet we expect our partners, life, and spirit, to increase the bliss in our lives when we hardly exploit the pleasure that is already ours. Did you know that the clitoris is the only human organ whose sole function is to give pleasure? God(dess) gave the clitoris to women.
As within so without; your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Getting a pussy is saying yes to pleasure. Yes, to all the divalicious benefits of your femininity.
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